It’s not easy being a woman. There are way too many things to do every second of every minute, every minute of every hour, every hour of every day. As it turns out, it’s harder being a mother.
The transition into parenthood introduces new anxieties, new shifts, and new perspectives in unpredictable ways. Not only they are on the edge 24×7 (whether they work or stay at home), mothers deal with a substantial amount of emotional and financial stress throughout the year.
As a consequence, they neglect self-care, often put themselves at the bottom of their to-do list, and inadvertently throw their total well-being and sense of equilibrium out of the window.
Mothers feel exhausted because they don’t get the rest they need. Therefore, psychologists recommend mothers take mom-cations to improve their own well-being and family relationships in the long run.
Psychology professor Dr Nava Silton says the constant demands of motherhood can be overwhelming and a break from the family/kids can help mothers deal with the rigours of life as well as boost their mental health:
“Motherhood can be very stressful. Whether it’s financial stresses, time stresses, just trying to get a whole lot done in a very short period of time. I think it’s really important for mothers to be rejuvenated and refreshed. It’s very important for kids to see that balance that ideally needs to be achieved in a family situation.”
Motherhood is not about having/raising a child; it also involves making meals, managing the household, planning the events during the day/week, being present at all school activities, and so on. They also worry if their children are eating as much as they should, sleeping on time, studying as required, playing, and so on.
While it may feel as if it is impossible to stop worrying or take out some “me time” without feeling selfish, it is important that mothers take a kid-free mom-cation for their own sake, and effectively for the sake of the family. Distractify notes:
“Well any mom will tell you traveling with your whole family is far from restful. She’s still going to be the point person for every task she does at home. But a mom-cation entails alone time while the kids stay with another caretaker, parent, relative, or close friend.
“Aside from giving mom a break, this helps kids build an appreciation for their mom while she’s away, according to psychologists, and ultimately helps strengthen their relationship. The break also allows the other parent or close family member develop their own relationship with the young child. Additionally, kids can get used to not having mom solve all of their problems whenever they need something.”
Mom-cations can be a brief vacation where mothers travel together or solo, or they can be mini-breaks such as lunch date with a friend, time alone reading, or taking a walk (when having a fully developed vacation is not so easy to organise because of lack of time and financial restraints) —to rest and reflect.
“I came back and I was a better mom. A more patient mom. A better wife. You learn to appreciate what you have at home because you got that break from it all,” admitted Judy Khosh, a mother of two.
Here’s Alexandra Macon, who travelled to Lanai on a mom-cation, making the case for the solo mom vacation in an article published in Vogue:
“Self-care also helps the child. Kids learn a lot from watching their parents. Demonstrating acts of self-care teaches children the value of caring and loving themselves, so that they can be caring and loving to others.
“With this idea in mind, the plane ride back to the mainland seemed to fly by, and when I arrived home in New York, I felt fully present, energized, and ready to engage with my entire family despite the jet lag, which is good because my husband quickly made it clear that it’s his turn for a getaway.
“I love my children to the moon and back, but sometimes, a little alone time is necessary in order to be the best version of a parent possible. Needless to say, this won’t be my last solo mom trip.”
Have you ever taken a mom-cation? How did you feel after returning? Share your thoughts and experiences with us in the comment section below.